PRACTICING BEING PRESENT IS MOMENT BY MOMENT 

All humans experience pain from the past and fear about the future to certain degrees.  When we are content, relaxed, grateful, etc. it's often because we are in the present moment (the ideal place to be). 

When we observe ourselves and others without judgment, we experience peace.  When we notice how we are showing up in any given situation, it becomes effortless to be accountable for our behaviors,  'own our side of the fence,” and share our truth without blame or shame.  These steps we take along the path of life, keep us moving from victim to victor...

 

To be an active listener requires being fully present, and it can be beneficial to take turns talking about what we're learning about ourself, life, and others.  When we "hold space" we are witnessing one another on each person's journey. When it seems we're trudging through the muck and mire of mind/body/spirit challenges and issues, we may just need to be heard without judgment, criticism or sarcasm, so our nervous system calms and we can more easily find our way back to peace of mind...

 

Suggestions on truth telling about ourself with a trusted friend or guide that can assist in healing shame/embarrasment:

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My feelings: Glad, Mad, Sad, Grateful, Fearful, Peaceful etc. (Can use Emotional Scale for clearer reference)

 

My flaws: Traits of my character which I normally would try to hide from others

 

My mistakes: Choices I made which I now believe were not the wisest ones, as they did not contribute

to my happiness

 

My unloving behaviors (things I am doing to feel okay/loved, or ways I tend to protect myself from being emotionally hurt): Lying, Attacking, Acting like a Victim, Clinging, and Running to fill my emptiness, numb out. 

 

My seeking of Imitation Love: In the absence of Unconditional Love, seeking Praise, Power, and Pleasure to

fill my emptiness; seeking Safety to protect myself from getting emotionally hurt.

 

My expectations on other people: Expecting other people make choices for my convenience & my happiness.

 

My selfishness: Insisting that other people make choices for my convenience and my happiness.

 

My irresponsibility: Not taking actions to find Unconditional love which will eliminate my emptiness & fear.