In an attempt to get our needs met, most of us learned the art of "giving to get" and because unconditional love (the kind that’s given without need for anything in return or strings attached) has been rarely experienced in our lives, we have settled or traded for imitation love: praise, power, pleasure, safety to fill a void inside and feel better.
As a “recovering people pleaser” (person who has often given more than wanted to, out of obligation, or being afraid of disapproval) I am learning that before saying yes or jumping in to give anything (including solicited advice) it’s a wise practice to ask self some questions:
- What am I needing/wanting and if anything, can I tell the truth about it?
- How disappointed, upset, irritated, or angry will I be if person doesn’t provide me what I want (or care about my needs)?
- Can I accept a “no” in word, or deed, and be at peace inside/hold no resentment?
“For every opportunity presenting itself, as intentional spirits, we must assess how we are showing up to ourselves and others.” - Dr. Temple Hayes (ordained Unity and Science of Mind minister)
We know through neuroscience studies that athletes and entertainers who use their mind/body imagination to experience themselves playing and performing is in essence a rehearsal of an upcoming event. Let us remember that the “subconscious does not know the difference between a real experience or an imagined one”. So why not imagine how we would like to show up (or would have shown up) in any situation and re-create our life?
“It takes more energy to stay in your past than it does to move forward, for you are working against the flow of life.” - Rev. Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith
We can rewrite our past and release the low-vibration, heavy feelings of unpleasant memories. One of the practices I find very helpful (and enjoy sharing with others) is the “re-do” of painful memories and events. In any non-peaceful situation ask self: “What could I have done differently?” and envision it for it is a powerful, pivotal point of creativity, re-wiring the brain.
When we allow the pain to rise up and choose to see through the eyes of love, our perception changes, everything changes. When we invite new thoughts to generate in us by meditating, envisioning, and operating from unconditional love, we re-write our story. How cool is that? When we use our imagination and rehearse the desired outcome often (as many times as it takes) we re-map our blueprint, and a shift occurs inside us that ripples out. We are transforming an unpleasant event and re-writing our story, the story of all beings. And the future will be different, because we have changed.
“Be the change you want to see in the world.” - Mahatma Gandhi
The subconscious mind can be transcended by practicing the spiritual principles and Truths of ancient wisdom as taught by Hermes, Plato, Taoism, the Buddha, and Jesus (to name a few). As a Spiritual Guide, I am here to help people heal. Call me if you'd like a session with a prayer customized for you. Davina 808.938.8452